Do you know what my favorite part of sex is? It’s the “after-sex.”
It’s not that I don’t love long bouts of foreplay and intense sex, but the key to good sex is actually wanting that person in your bed after the sex is finished.
I don’t know about you, but for me there’s nothing worse than when the act of sex is over and while you’re staring at the ceiling and looking at the stranger next to you in bed, all you’re doing is wishing they were your dog on the floor. I know that sounds harsh.
The bottom line is if you got laid just for the sake of being laid, then that person laying next to you in bed might as well be invisible. We’ve all been there.
We’ve all had sex with someone because we were so turned on to them in the moment, that you had to ravage their body from head to toe and spend a blissful hour or two having sex. Yes, I believe that sex should be a couple hours of fun.
You meet someone. You have some great mental foreplay. You turn each other on via text messaging. You go out for a drink. You’re crawling all over each other. You have no idea who this person is, but all you want to do is get down and dirty with them.
You go back to your house or their house. You ravage each other for a couple hours. You get off. Then you’re staring at the ceiling saying “Who is this person, and how do I get them to leave?”
Which brings us to the whole point of this blog.
The best part of sex is the “after-sex.” The “after-sex” takes place when you can look at someone, and you realize that you just got it on with someone whom you really like. You think that this person next to you is so hot and sexy, that you can’t wait to be with them again.
The snuggling and the caressing after sex feels so good against your body. You desire them more and not desire them less.
For these reasons, the best part of sex is the exploration after sex. The touching. The conversation. The laughter. The ability to snuggle and spoon the night away pressed up against each other, getting ready for another two hour body ravage.
I don’t have sex unless I know that I’m going to have great “after-sex.” The ability to connect with somebody at a higher level is the only way to have sex in my book… regardless of whether you’re in love, or whether you’re just getting to know and enjoy each other.
I’ve had my share of one-night flings. I’ve had enough of those. I now crave deeper connections with women, whether it’s for a night, a week, a month or for years. It’s the lifestyle I choose to live and the lifestyle I teach.
If you desire greater intimacy, you need to learn the power of “after-sex.” You need to learn the power of the touching, the conversation, and the laughter that leads to true intimacy.
David Wygant a leading personal dating coach, dating advice professional and image-maker. For 20 years David Wygant has worked to earn the trust of American men looking to transform their love lives. David also has a dedicated women’s dating advice site that offers a wealth of free dating information specifically for women.
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